It’s Late

Life can be so great one minute and a pale glimmer the next. What parent has not felt the disappointment when a child makes their first big mistake? Well, we have finally been elevated to that status of parenthood. I must say I am numb. I feel both betrayed and at fault. Where did I go wrong? What could I have done to stop it from happening? Am I reacting too harshly or not harshly enough? It is a fine line with children and as a parent we want them to make the right decisions.

Now the one thing we learn as we get older is that the past is always there and weighs heavily on our decisions. We decide what to do by the results of previous decisions or by the results of those close to us. We also learn that through our past mistakes that time eventually removes the pain and people tend to forget the bad things. Looking backwards at all of the bad things that have happened to us only blinds us to what is out there to see. We cannot wallow in the guilt and despair of events that are already done. We need to look at what we are going to do and make sure that we do not attempt a command repeat performance. That is how we get pigeon holed into being viewed as something we aren’t then create a self fulfilling prophesy.

I know that what happened at my house could have been stopped and it has been upsetting to at least three members of my family. I also realize that we are all going to make mistakes and that we must atone for those mistakes. A thief, when caught, will go to jail (at least when the liberal courts don’t find some excuse to let them go) and that jail is the punishment for the crime. The objective is to get past the punishment and learn from the event. Make sure that we have set ourselves up to maneuver around that situation in the future so we do not get the same results. The best approach is to address the behavior. Give all of the love we have and make sure that the behavior is changed. It is after all the behavior that we do not like.


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Cobb